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Friday, May 15, 2015

MY LIFE: How I deal with people and maybe why I'm not always the most popular

Thus has got me in trouble, or, at least, not the most popular or liked person. But I pretty much take this approach to everyone. Long as they're not hurting anyone, why not?

DUBNER: You remember the train? Yeah. And he’s having this phone conversation literally as if there’s no one else in the world, which is like a sign of focus or some– oblivion. And but I think that that– you know, I realized a long time ago, when you write about or with people who do unusual things, right? So like, Levitt is an unusual scholar. A lot of the people that we’ve written about in our books are similarly unusual scholars or researchers. Sudhir Venkatesh comes to mind, this guy who Levitt worked with a lot who did research on drug dealers and other stuff. And you realize that when people do very unusual things, particularly for a living, that we really appreciate, we can’t also then turn it around and just say, “But I want them to be exactly normal in every other way.” Right? The things that make people extraordinary almost inherently dictate that they’re gonna be kind of not normal in the way that we think are normal people. So rather than say, “Well, I love that guy’s work, but he’s really weird in this way,” or whatnot, we- I like to just think of them as: these are unusual people, and we appreciate the upside, and we kinda, you know, the other oblivious part–we’ll, it’s cool. We just live with it.

LEVITT: So I would- I mean, there’s a sense in which society pins us down. And tells us- Like there’s things you’re supposed to do and not supposed to do. And you think a lot about the other person. And you learn not to follow the thing that interests you, or the joy, and live for the moment. I mean, a lot of pressure, I think. And, like, you know, I wrote this this paper about abortion and crime. And it was a long time ago in the 90’s, and my co-author was John Donohue. And after it became controversial, he was very upset. He said, “I don’t get invited to parties anymore,” right? “People are so upset at what we wrote in that paper, I don’t get invited to parties.” And he thought that was bad. And so– and I think if you live in a world where you care about whether you get invited to parties, then you have a hard time being true to what you wanna be. And I think we’ve kinda adopted a stance of, “We don’t care if we get invited to parties.” And we’re lucky, you know–we’re lucky enough to have a platform and the freedom to not have real jobs and pursue what we love. And that’s– I don’t know. That’s a wonderful thing to have. And I think we just– we just live in it, and not–don’t worry about it. What do you think?

Wednesday, September 04, 2013

MY LIFE - 50 For My 50th Day 23: "Moody's Point" by Lipstick Homicide and other songs about depression

For an explanation of "50 For My 50th", go here - http://oldermusicgeek.blogspot.com/2013/08/entertainment-50-for-my-50th-50-days-of.html

Depression runs in my family. And it hit me hard. These songs pretty much describe how I felt when I was deep in depression.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Vn2SencrSL_0ujzefX_Bfc_j-KJhKJzSUTDJi3CiQs8/edit?usp=sharing



A playlists of songs that describe how I felt during my depression including "Moody's Point" by Lipstick Homicide:




Click the link below to listen to my monstrosity of a playlist, OlderMusicGeek's 50th B-Day, on Spotify:
http://open.spotify.com/user/127676752/playlist/1bRKV8LHJIL3JQih1ZSq76

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

MY LIFE - 50 For My 50th Day 18: "When It's Cold" and "Into The Blue" by Moby and other songs that describe how I felt suicidal

For an explanation of "50 For My 50th", go here - http://oldermusicgeek.blogspot.com/2013/08/entertainment-50-for-my-50th-50-days-of.html

I'm not proud of this fact, but I did try to kill myself once. And it wasn't a cry for help. No note. Went where it was hard to find me. The only reason I'm still alive is because I didn't take enough pills or vomited up too much of them.

Why did I try to kill myself? Even a decade later, it's to explain completely.

I mean, I obviously wasn't thinking straight.

But basically, it boiled down to this.

I was took pride in being a good husband and a good dad. And I failed on that when I cheated on my wife.

Secondly, my wife was threatening to go back to Africa with our daughter. I was transgender and Africa is very traditional. I knew I could have trouble getting custody and visitation rights there.

And thirdly, my wife outed my transgenderism to my family and friends.

So, in my crazed, depressed state of mind, I didn't see much reason to live. I failed as a father and husband. I was losing my wife. Thought I might never see my daughter again.

I was an idiot. More than a decade later, I'm happily divorced from that awful woman. I have custody of my daughter. And my daughter and I only get a few texts from her mother every few months. And I, with the help of a great therapist, decided my transgenderism was just something I went through to cope, deal, and come to terms with my feminine side.

Morale of the story: Suicide bad! Don't do it!




A playlist about my suicide attempt including Moby's "When It's Cold" and "Into The Blue":


Click the link below to listen to my monstrosity of a playlist, OlderMusicGeek's 50th B-Day, on Spotify:

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

MY LIFE - 50 For My 50th Day 04: "Our House" by Madness and a tunes that describes my childhood!

For an explanation of "50 For My 50th", go here - http://oldermusicgeek.blogspot.com/2013/08/entertainment-50-for-my-50th-50-days-of.html

I grew up in a house where my parents had 4 kids in 6 years, and then one more 9 years later! Yeah... And my parents also raised us to be very individualistic and independent! Which sometimes bit them in the ass, but overall was a good thing! To put things more clearly, I'll quote a friend, "I don't blame your mom for being the way she was. Not only did she have to raise five kids! She had to raise YOU five!"

 https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Vn2SencrSL_0ujzefX_Bfc_j-KJhKJzSUTDJi3CiQs8/edit?usp=sharing

 

Playlist with "Our House" and other tunes:

Click the link below to listen to my montrosity of a playlist, OlderMusicGeek's 50th B-Day, on Spotify: http://open.spotify.com/user/127676752/playlist/1bRKV8LHJIL3JQih1ZSq76

Sunday, June 02, 2013

MY LIFE - Why I shouldn't be taken to church!

Sigh!

Okay, so I'm at my wife's church. Her parents are there. Me, my daughter, and her son are listening to her sing a hymn in her lovely operatic soprano on front of the whole church.

What happens right in the middle? Out of my pocket comes a loud trilling noise that sounds like a cartoon character tiptoeing, as the alarm, that I thought I put on silent, goes off for the whole church to hear!

Sigh!

Saturday, May 18, 2013

MY LIFE - "And you couldn't tell me this BEFORE we got married?!"

(As I walk in after walking the dog) Daughter: "Dad, did you know that your wife is white?!"

Me (looking angry at my wife): "And you couldn't tell me this BEFORE we got married?!"

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