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Thursday, November 21, 2013

CULTURE/SOCIETY - Transgender Day of Remembrance: Remembering Naoimi

On International Transgender Day of Remembrance ZIMBABWE’S GALZ Pays Tribute to Naoimi

Screen Shot 2013-11-20 at 12.30.02 PMWe pay tribute to Naomi, Zimbabwe’s very own trans woman who championed the struggle for LGBTI rights in so many ways. She came out at a time when there was very little to no information on transgender people. Born 4th in a family of 8, Naomi a very active member of GALZ, Naomi never shied away from controversy. In her hometown of Mabvuku, a township about 25km outside Harare, most people considered Naomi’s behavior feminine.

Naomi fought for inclusion and acceptance even within the GALZ women’s program.  She was never included in these activities. She was a victim of violence in public spaces owing to her gender identity. She attempted suicide three times in her life, following a period in which society shunned her. But nothing stopped her tenacious fight for LGBT awareness, rights and freedoms.





Thursday, August 29, 2013

MY LIFE - 50 For My 50th Day 19: "Once In A Lifetime" by Talking Heads and too many songs about my failed marriage

For an explanation of "50 For My 50th", go here - http://oldermusicgeek.blogspot.com/2013/08/entertainment-50-for-my-50th-50-days-of.html

Well, after my suicide attempt, I obviously went to therapy. Trying to fix myself and my marriage.

But it was actually in couples therapy, that I realized that I didn't like or respect the woman I was married to. And I also realized that she wasn't willing to put much effort into our marriage. I was doing everything.

But because of our daughter, I tried to keep it working for a couple of years. Eventually, I figured out that both my daughter and I would happier if I left her mother.

And I was right!

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Vn2SencrSL_0ujzefX_Bfc_j-KJhKJzSUTDJi3CiQs8/edit?usp=sharing



A playlist about realizing my marriage was over including Talking Heads' "Once In A Lifetime":



Click the link below to listen to my monstrosity of a playlist, OlderMusicGeek's 50th B-Day, on Spotify:
http://open.spotify.com/user/127676752/playlist/1bRKV8LHJIL3JQih1ZSq76


Wednesday, August 28, 2013

MY LIFE - 50 For My 50th Day 18: "When It's Cold" and "Into The Blue" by Moby and other songs that describe how I felt suicidal

For an explanation of "50 For My 50th", go here - http://oldermusicgeek.blogspot.com/2013/08/entertainment-50-for-my-50th-50-days-of.html

I'm not proud of this fact, but I did try to kill myself once. And it wasn't a cry for help. No note. Went where it was hard to find me. The only reason I'm still alive is because I didn't take enough pills or vomited up too much of them.

Why did I try to kill myself? Even a decade later, it's to explain completely.

I mean, I obviously wasn't thinking straight.

But basically, it boiled down to this.

I was took pride in being a good husband and a good dad. And I failed on that when I cheated on my wife.

Secondly, my wife was threatening to go back to Africa with our daughter. I was transgender and Africa is very traditional. I knew I could have trouble getting custody and visitation rights there.

And thirdly, my wife outed my transgenderism to my family and friends.

So, in my crazed, depressed state of mind, I didn't see much reason to live. I failed as a father and husband. I was losing my wife. Thought I might never see my daughter again.

I was an idiot. More than a decade later, I'm happily divorced from that awful woman. I have custody of my daughter. And my daughter and I only get a few texts from her mother every few months. And I, with the help of a great therapist, decided my transgenderism was just something I went through to cope, deal, and come to terms with my feminine side.

Morale of the story: Suicide bad! Don't do it!




A playlist about my suicide attempt including Moby's "When It's Cold" and "Into The Blue":


Click the link below to listen to my monstrosity of a playlist, OlderMusicGeek's 50th B-Day, on Spotify:

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

HISTORY: 8 Surprising Things You Didn't Know About Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Although King is one of U.S. history's most widely chronicled individuals, there are aspects of his life that are less well-known than the pivotal speeches, the campaigns against Jim Crow city halls from Montgomery in 1955 to Memphis in 1968, and the dalliances that for some, tainted his personal life. King was as complex a figure as exists in our social narrative. He was a man conflicted by his commitment to a movement into which he was drafted against his better judgement and by the overwhelming demands to fulfill the role of human rights spokesperson. He was a husband and father who belonged to a people and a revolution, and the nation's most prominent advocate of nonviolence at a time when violence burned on urban streets, college campuses and in Southeast Asia.

http://www.alternet.org/activism/8-surprising-things-you-didnt-know-about-dr-martin-luther-king-jr

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

CULTURE/SOCIETY: Transgender Day of Remembrance: Why We Remember

Transgender people are those whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. In 1999 a handful of transgender people sought to highlight the need for awareness around anti-transgender violence, which refers to attacks against people who are perceived as transgender -- regardless of how one may personally identify. To that end, we held the first Transgender Day of Remembrance event in the Castro district of San Francisco, holding the names of those we'd lost in silent testimony.

That was 13 years ago. Today, Transgender Day of Remembrance will be presented in the United States and Canada, Australia, Poland, Russia, the Philippines, South Korea and many other locations across the Earth. The notion of remembering our dead reaches into places that those few who gathered in 1999 could hardly have envisioned.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/gwendolyn-ann-smith/transgender-day-of-remembrance-why-we-remember_b_2166234.html

Saturday, November 22, 2008

ENTERTAINMENT: Punk Rock Auction?

This is from me, with a bunch of reprinted material added! - OlderMusicGeek

I heard about this on NPR. Christie's is having an auction of punk rock memorabilia. Sigh!

The Village Voice put it best in their blog, Christie's 'Punk/Rock' Auction: The Crying of Lot '77.

"Who buys? In light of The Sex Pistols' rejection of the Rock and Roll Hall Of Fame as a "piss stain", it's hard to imagine these are institutional rates. The auctions have no reserve, so it's possible that some lots won't fetch their listed prices - my informal sampling of auctions past turned up the occasional overvaluation. The whole thing feels a little desperate, like a high-end version of some aging collector's eBay fire sale."

But I think I'll leave the final say to John "Johnny Rotten" Lydon from what I considered the only good reality TV show ever made, Rotten TV!

Friday, August 29, 2008

CULTURE/SOCIETY: My "Tweets" From Twitter

my shoulders ache. my legs feel like rubber. i'm dying of thirst. i'm getting so old. i just can't handle moving anymore!

@juice_brianne - why do you need your wallet to decide what to make for dinner?

@istacie - congrats on your 2 100%'s. good job!

i am sooooo sore. i helped my sister moved. this is too much work for a man in his mid-forties! ouch!

ALL SAID ABOUT ME MAY OR MAY NOT B TRU SEE FOR URSELF!:o hyperactivity -omg's daughter X_x

that was REALLY my daughter - she demanded to see everything i wrote about her on twitter!

found this on the everyone tab - http://twitter.com/laundryroom - and http://tinyurl.com/23ruwr - too amusing!

bought a new cord and my zune is still a piece of crap! what a surprise! oh, why oh why did i buy a zune?!
@angryasianguy - powerpuff girls and dexter were strong bonding experience for my daughter and me. watched it all the time!

@killregrets - i love that "fraud in the 80s" song - but it's the only mates of states song i know!

my zune is still not working! curse you microsoft and bill gates! someday, i will have my revenge! - sorry too many comic books in my teens!

@spookychan -red rain is a freaky awesome songs-one of the few i like that came out after "security" -plus stewart copeland plays the drums!

@killregrets - redheads and no make up rules in my book. go for it!

@rebeccalarsen -i hate people who romanticize suicide and worship those who committed it. trying suicide is just plain stupid. i know!!

@killregrets -ALWAYS playing my pandora quick mix when at the computer. wish could play at work! http://tinyurl.com/6hb5pz

@msaleem - thanks for telling us that about hancock. now why don't you tell everyone who rosebud is!

i f-ing hate microsoft! i never ever buy a f-ing zune again! v.2 doesn't work half as well as v.1. i constantly am having software issues!

@spookychan -sorry, don't get what people like about later gabriel. liked peter gabriel iii, security and birdy. then lost interest.

@killregrets - what?! scientology lies?! i can't believe it! i have to check my thetan levels!

dang, failed new citizenship test! - http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id... - http://tinyurl.com/5grnz9

i've discovered another way i've become my parents. i'll tell my daughter that joey ramone/kurt vonnegut/george carlin/jesse helms died.

when i tell my daughter these people have died, i get a blank look. i'm sure it's the same one i gave my parents!

then i try to explain the importance of the dead person-which i get a look of oh-there-he-goes-again -which i probably also gave my parents!

@istacie -one of my musical guilty pleasures is "wake me up before you go-go"-hate to say it but gets rotated into my mp3 player a good bit.

@killregrets - i hate you-my apartment is a mess and don't have any clean clothes for work-and cant sleep and am not doing anything useful!

@sushiday and @jfalconer -you're making me feel old-seem to be feeling that way a lot lately! anyway, remember 1986 -damn, i was in college! A link to my Twitter page

Sunday, December 23, 2007

SCIENCE, CULTURE/SOCIETY and SPIRITUALITY/RELIGION: Suicide: Holidays' Darkest Myth

This is an article from The L.A. Times that I found with Netvibes.com. I shortened to make it read more quickly. Here's a link to the complete article. - OlderMusicGeek

Suicide: holidays' darkest myth

Contrary to past reports, depression and suicide rates actually fall during the holidays.
By Susan Brink (susan.brink@latimes.com), Los Angeles Times Staff Writer
December 17, 2007
It was Christmas Eve when George Bailey stared into the black depths of the river beneath the bridge in Bedford Falls, convinced that the world would be better off without him. That scene from the 1946 movie classic "It's a Wonderful Life" could well have given birth to the media myth that Christmas is a trigger for increased suicides and episodes of depression.

It is a baseless notion, according to a body of published studies by statisticians who have examined hundreds of thousands of suicides in the United States and around the world. The number of suicides goes down, not up, over the holiday season, by as much as 40%.

In one of the most thorough examinations of what researchers call acts of deliberate self-harm, which can be an indication of depression, Helen Bergen, research scientist at the University of Oxford, found that Christmas, for most people, is protective.

Bergen and colleagues reached this conclusion after examining emergency room admission records of 19,346 people in England and looking at daily rates of self-induced injury from 1976 to 2003.

Drug or alcohol overdoses, self-poisoning with gas or other harmful substances and self-inflicted injuries-- with or without the deliberate intention to die -- all decreased from average levels during the week of Dec. 19-26, Bergen and colleagues found, and these lowered levels held through New Year's Day.

The decrease in rates of self-inflicted damage before, on and immediately after Christmas and into the New Year was found regardless of age, family connections or social isolation, the researchers reported in the September issue of the journal Social Science & Medicine.

Even people with family relationship problems were less inclined to attempt to hurt themselves during the holidays. "These findings are contrary to the popular view that Christmas is a time of stress and arguments," Bergen says. Perhaps, she says, problems within the nuclear family ease up instead of intensify when the extended family is around.

Another possible reason why depression and suicide rates fall this time of year is that the season, more than other times, is one of giving. "People tend to reach out over the holidays," says Dr. Douglas Jacobs, a psychiatrist at Harvard Medical School. Elderly people in nursing homes might suddenly get visitors. People who haven't heard from friends all year might get a card or a phone call.

It's only in the last year that the majority of news stories reflected the fact versus the myth about seasonal suicide rates, says Romer, who since 2000 has been tracking trends in media interpretations of the link between holidays and suicide. In a national search of news stories linking the holidays with suicide, he says, 9% of news organizations supported the myth in 2006, compared with 57% in 2005 and 77% in 1999.

An extra dose of caring probably adds to the psychological protection of a season that seems to insist on happiness. No matter how bad it may seem, holiday rituals add up to more good than bad, buffering adults and children against depression and anxiety.

Barbara Fiese, chairwoman of psychology at Syracuse University, reviewed 32 studies done over 50 years and concluded that holiday family rituals may be annoying, but they're good for us. People with strong family routines and rituals at holiday time reported more marital satisfaction, better academic achievement among children and better overall health among family members, she found. Even in families in which there has been a divorce, the continuation of family rituals improves the children's ability to adapt and increases their stability.

A link to the complete article

A link to all my Christmas and holiday posts

Happy Christmas and/or Boxing Day and/or Kwanzaa and/or Hannakah and/or Bodhi Day and/or Sanghamitta Day and/or Shabe Cheleh and/or Makara Sankranti and/or Junkanoo and/or Dong Zhi and/or Toji and/or Soyal and/or Yule and/or Seva Zistane and/or Alban Arthan and/or Long Night and/or Mean Geimrech and/or Brumalia and/or Dies Natalis Solis Invicti and/or Saturnalia and/or Lenaea and/or Wren Day and/or Tekufah Tevet and/or Winter Solstice and/or ChriFSMas and/or any other December or winter solstice holidays i missed!

Oh, and Bah Humbug to those who don't celebrate the holidays! :)

Sunday, August 19, 2007

CULTURE/SOCIETY: Why Do People.......???

WARNING: Some pictures in this blog entry are rather gruesome!

My friend,
The Sassy Witch, sent this to me. She got it from her daughter. I found it touching and am passing it on. - OlderMusicGeek



Wake up and pay attention!


Why do people commit suicide?

Suicide

Why do people cut themselves?

Bleed

Why do girls become anorexic and bulimic?

Anorexic

Why do kids bring guns to school?

Kill

Why do kids get depressed...so they start using meds, and abusing them?

Meds

Why do girls feel the need to act like sluts to impress guys?

Slut

Why cant people show their sexuality freely, without worrying about being judged?

Lovely

In the Bill Of Rights, it says we have FREEDOM OF SPEECH! So why are we so afraid to speak up for ourselves?

I KNOW WHY!

Shh!

Evil


"Whores"

Plastics

"Geeks"

Losers

"Goths"

Darkness

"Emos"

andfadetoblack

AND THAT'S NOT EVEN HALF OF THEM!

Society in general

Earth

thetruth

IS THIS AMERICAN?

Child Abuse

IS THIS THE NATION FIGHT AND WE LIVE IN WARS TO SUPPORT?

Trapped

I AM SICK OF IT!
Stereotypes, and everything else.
I want to live in a good place, without suicide, rape, murder, and JUDGMENT!

Killing is wrong

IF THIS HAD ANY AFFECT ON YOU REPOST IT!


No, a ghost will not rape your dog.
You wont have relationship problems
No you won't die in 7 days.
BUT you will have the guilt on your shoulders that you didn't try to get the message across.
I want to stop the madness.
If I only reached out to 1 or 2 people that's fine.
At least MY conscience is clear...HOW ABOUT YOURS?
Send this to 10 people if you agree with this. if you dont then ignore it.

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